Observer of yeshivish- tznious is not about attracting men. Its about being able to build an inner beauty that creates an atmosphere where one can trhive in their yiddishkeit. I grew up quite modern and for me tznious was not enforced once I learned halachos of tznious and was able to sloely take on each different part of tznious, I was able to recognize the beauty of it coming from the complete opposite. I feel more beautiful than I ever have cuz I know I’m making my neshama more beautiful. I baruch Hashem don’t feel self concious with he need to dress in a way thst will grab others attention.
That’s not to say thst dressing tznious means u dress like a shlub. On the contrary I dress like hashems princess and put myself together.