Holy Brother: Withholding a Get can not change the reality on the ground. Ultimately, the father has to advise the child to do what’s best for the child, and help the child avoid getting caught in the crossfire. Raising children is all Siyata D’shmaya. The father needs to make his Hishtadlus – but don’t make hishtadlus Yeter by withholding the get.
Truthsharer: Even if the husband spends the money and the time and wins visitation rights, it’s difficult if not impossible to enforce them. The wife (who usually gets residential custody) can claim the child doesn’t want to go to visit or is too sick to go or whatever. The court is only going to enforce where she is blatant about it.