But pretending amusement can help to make bullies stop. “
Not in my case, RY. When someone is mentally ill, they don’t respond in a normal, expected way. One definition of insanity is when one does the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result. This person has been trying to get me to respond to her e-mails and FB posts and she has been writing increasingly nasty and bizarre lies about me, while EXPECTING that I will respond (I haven’t in a year).
She called my Rov to trash me to him (he was blown away by her vehemence, but he and his Rebbetzin know me too well to ever believe such sick hotzaas shem ra, BH. After a lengthy vicious attack on me, she then asked him to please talk to me because she “wants us to be friends again.” Why on earth would anyone want to be friends with someone whom she has described in the most disgusting of terms?
I can’t laugh about this or pretend it away. And if I actually were to chalilah run into her, I couldn’t pretend amusement, because she is the type who can become violent, especially if she perceives that one laughs at her.