Shindy,
Who said there is anything wrong with being a “frummy”? That should be a compliment as opposed to an insult. But anyway, about your comment. You’re right, I shouldn’t have said it that way. But once I brought it up, let me clarify. I shouldn’t have made such a blanket statement. There are those girls who come really to learn and stay off the streets (I don’t mean literally; they go to the supermarket etc.) but they don’t go out for ice cream all the time and don’t talk loudly on the buses. Then there are those who, I guess you can negate the previous sentences for them. They do do all the above and more unfortunately. I am not even saying that I would not have acted that way. They obviously don’t realize. Most of them are good girls who just don’t get that they are living in a regular city where everyone is living a regular day to day life while they are in a sort of camp setting except in middle of a regular neighborhood. So, as I said, this should not be taken as loshon horah on a whole group, but on certain individuals who you (and even I) do not know who they are. So, why am I bringing this up? Because most girls in sems here, have more opportunities for “fun”. I in no way have anything against fun. I think it’s very important. But you have to seriously consider what the purpose of your daughter’s year is here. Fun? Or learning? Growing? Or all of the above?
You say you weren’t such a tzadeikes at that age yet. Well neither was I and don’t htink I am a tzadeikes right now either. Maybe when I am your age I will be one! (I am MUCH closer to the sem girls age than to your age, by the way, so I can probably remember what it’s like better than you can. Besides for that, I’m sure you know more than me. I hope I didn’t come across as someone who thinks she knows it all. I didn’t mean to.)