I disagree WIY i think these problems are not because we are too assimilated but because we are too cloistered, we live in a bubble in this bubble you can be a good husband and good father and beloved by the community for your acts of kindness but because we are so closed off inside this bubble we become oblivious to the feelings of those who are not in our community.
When people feel that only frum yidden are important they sometimes think they can skirt the laws of the land and treat those others like second class citizens and should their crimes become public knowledge they know they will be protected by the community who will scream anti-semitism!, there are anti-semites who will hate frum yidden no matter what, but there are also those who will become angered with us based on our actions and our attitude.
If there was a city in Wyoming that was predominantly made up of Norweigan-Americans and the Norweigans had all the power and used their power to favor themselves and treated the non Norweigans with disdain and disrespect and felt superior to them in every way I know if I lived there I would dislike Norweigans even thought most of the Norweigans are kindhearted people the actions of a few cast a pall over all of us, cause and effect, we don’t own this world and we are in golus we should show gratitude to the government and residents of this kind medina.
There is also a huge lack of leadership when there are known law breakers in our midst and they are given kovod solely for their money that is a huge problem we cant turn a blind eye to those who willingly and continually defy and break the laws of the land.