A husband should never ever be “EXPECTED” to do the dishes, the laundry or other household chores. That being said he should always show his appreciation to his wife for her taking care of his house, children & personal needs. Of course if he’s able to he should help out when he sees his wife needs.
Before all you “liberated” women (and some men too) jump down my throat let me explain as follows.
Todays society has corrupted the concept of roles in marriage with the woman working outside the home which in most cases is not by choice due to the need for extra income. Once upon a time ago women took pride in taking care of their home, children & husband. A woman who is forced to be out working cannot in most cases give it her all because its just too exhausting. True there are some superwoman out there but that’s not the norm. A man on the other hand needs a wife to be his “helper” in life. “Helper” defined as someone to take care of his house, children & his own needs. A woman who creates a warm, comfortable, caring environment for her husband enables him to have the proper yishuv hadas to accomplish whatever it is that he has to in both ruchnius and gashmius.
“Expecting” her husband to do the dishes and other chores (I didn’t say he can’t or shouldn’t help only it shouldn’t be an expectation) creates a level of stress (opposite of yishuv hadas) in most men.