Dance,
�And anyone who thinks that a woman�s modesty isnt connected to what�s on her head doesn�t understand modesty at all.”
Agreed – and “modesty” is defined by Halacha – not by books, professors and who knows who and what else.
i.e. and as long as the wig is in a modest form (let that be clear – NOT peritzus ) – even if it is created out of ones VERY OWN hair is 100% muttar once the minhag has been established.
Are there levels in Tznius ? – Yes!
Can you go Lefnim Meshuras haDin ? That is up to each individual separately with the guidance of their Rav.
We have no issue with you or anyone else accepting upon yourselves hidurim and chumros and, I respect you for that – but don’t impose it on others. Especially, when it�s based on misinformation or misquotes, which is not your fault at all, as how should you know? You never truly studied Gemara Rishonim and Poskim etc. rather – I blame those books. You read a book or two representing that side of the argument and you became all passionate about it – nothing wrong! Kol Hakavod, being passionate about a mitzvah is a great thing. But don�t expect everyone to agree or share your visions and beliefs, especially if it goes against their poskim.
If you are really interested in the truth � you should represent all the above and other quotes to your �respected Talmud Chacham�, as you probably didn�t comprehend the significance of the sources presented above, and how it goes against the book �sources� quoted.
I will quote more of how some of the sources were misrepresented or taken out of context in the following posts.