YYA > All noise to the contrary notwithstanding, on the person-to-person grassroots level, there is much more אחדות here than you may think.
I absolutely agree. I mentioned that in the thread on siyum hashas – most baalei batim I talked to would like to have everyone together.
Also, I know places where Rav is officially very charedi and proper, while somewhat sympathetic to others in his unofficial lashon. When he is not present, others might say tefilos for tzahal, medina, shevuyim instead of saying tehilim for unnamed reason as many places do.