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We’re at a total loss as to what to do next.
Our mainstream BY daughter has not got into any Sems in our European country. Here they go to sem at 16.
Initially we applied for one another daughter had attended and felt it was an excellent fit. We were all shocked when she didn’t get in.
We pushed and pushed but still she has no sem.
We applied to other sems in our country but they are either full or suspicious of taking in a reject.
Our daughter is a good BY girl and has been devastated by all of this. Girls with smartphones and secret boyfriends have all been accepted but not her.
Our next move is to look for something in EY. She’s only 16 and most only take from 17. We’re looking for a small, nurturing environment for her.
Any suggestions?How do you know that the girls who got in have secret boyfriends?
It is a mitzvah for parents to educate their children in Torah, middos, jobs, and work ethics. Especially for girls, Gemora in Kiddushin calls to beautify them for marriage. So, teach her beautiful middos and prepare her for a job that will let her buy herself jewelry.
Find your daughter a job in your town, make sure she works honestly, find a private teacher or teach her yourself in things she needs and wants to learn; compensate her lack of fun with trips to EY and other places. Explain to her that the name of the seminary is used in shidduch resumes to reject people who go to a “wrong” type. Instead, she will be asked “why didn’t you go to seminary” – and you’ll explain and refer to the Talmid or Talmidah chachoma that taught her and knows her so well, and families who do not understand this will happily reject themselves, reducing your workload.
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