I think parents should snoop because unlike when you grew up a kid can have an itty bitty hand held device loaded with movies non Jewish music and what not that doesn’t belong in a frum home. A parent has an obligation to snoop and keep an eye on things. “
I hear you, but there is a difference between MONITORING (knowing where your kids are, putting filters on the computer at home, knowing who their friends are and whether THEIR parents are equually vigilant) and SNOOPING. Would you want them to take a leaf from your book and snoop in YOUR things (and if they are the type that you cannot trust, they WILL do that)? But yes, I do believe we have to be careful with our kids and snooping should be reserved for when you see there seems to be a problem (i.e., change in personality, secretiveness that is atypical, suddenly slipping in school grades, not following house rules and acting irresponsibly).