im not quite following the majority opinion here that saying no was a lack of kavod. S/he did it in the best way by not being direct but rather avoiding answering imo, but in any case, if w.a.h. (im just gonna assume female 🙂 )was makpid on yoshon, cholov yisroel, or gebroktz and the rabbi was not, would that be a lack of kavod for her to say she wouldn’t join him for his meals? He was asking if she would eat by him, and she declined. Thats a lack of kavod how?
More importantly, im not quite following why this turned into a bashing thread, or why half the above posts were allowed up. One way or another, it’s loshon hora with no tachlis here.