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February 9, 2014 7:59 am at 7:59 am #612089writer.at.heart415Member
[Contextual info: I’m frum and went to a BY-type high school, but I now dorm at a secular college.]
Motzai Shabbos I was talking with the campus Orthodox rabbi and two Orthodox students about building community with frum people who live in the neighborhood by eating at their houses Friday night and Shabbos lunch. I said I don’t really eat in other people’s homes, and since I don’t know these community members or their standards, I wouldn’t feel comfortable eating by them. The rabbi then asked jokingly, “would you eat in my home?” Honestly, no, I would not, since I’ve heard him make some really questionable comments and psaks about halachos in general and kashrus in specific. But instead of saying no, since that would just be supremely awkward and embarrassing, I latched onto something else that had been said right beforehand and blathered about that.
It was obvious that he caught that I didn’t answer the question, and I feel terrible for my reaction. I know that I should have just lied and said yes and dealt with the consequences whenever they would arise in the future, but I wasn’t thinking on my feet and now I just feel really bad. He had no right to put me on the spot like that, but I still feel bad that he now knows how little I respect his halachic opinions and how little faith I have in his observance of halacha. I don’t know if I should say something in apology, or if I should just let it go, since he’s probably forgotten it at this point. One of the other kids in the room thinks that I should talk out my issues with him, but I don’t think that would be productive at all, since there’s nothing he could say that would make me think he keeps a home up to my standards of kashrus.
What’s everyone’s thoughts?
February 9, 2014 1:20 pm at 1:20 pm #1002901LevAryehMemberIf he thinks you’re being too OCD in your observance of kashrus, refer him to the eleventh perek of Mesillas Yesharim (about five pages in, depending on the print) where he talks about ma’achalos asuros.
For a real-life example of what he’s talking about, remember the Chicago Tylenol Murders, where an estimated 31 million bottles of Tylenol were recalled in response to a total of seven reported deaths.
February 9, 2014 1:58 pm at 1:58 pm #1002902popa_bar_abbaParticipantI think you did the right thing. And sometimes life is just awkward.
Dovid Hamelech says he used to talk about the Torah when he would get together with other kings, and it was very awkward because the other kings wanted to talk about hunting and corn mazes and whatever else they played.
But Dovid says: ?????? ??????? ??? ????? ??? ????
I think you are correct that talking out your issues is unlikely to lead to your accepting his kashrus. If he is a reasonable person, he’ll understand (the same way I understand that people who keep yoshon don’t want to eat my challah), but, if he is a reasonable person he probably also won’t push the issue.
February 9, 2014 2:18 pm at 2:18 pm #1002903☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantPopa, would you also understand if I wouldn’t eat your non minei gavli anisakis and chashash pig’s milk yogurt?
I would hope so. I would also hope that I wouldn’t consider you an avaryan for doing so, since there are accepted poskim who are mattir.
February 9, 2014 2:35 pm at 2:35 pm #1002904popa_bar_abbaParticipantI most certainly would understand if they wouldn’t. I’d even understand if they would say they don’t feel comfortable in my kitchen at all since I do those things.
February 9, 2014 2:35 pm at 2:35 pm #1002905HaLeiViParticipantThe only thing you could have done differently is to avoid answering in a Shtickier way. You could laugh as a response, which diffuses tension and sounds like, of course, while hinting that after all you don’t want to get into it.
But like Popa said, talking it out won’t help. It won’t change his mind and it won’t change yours.
February 9, 2014 2:50 pm at 2:50 pm #1002906HaLeiViParticipantPopa, you fish in your kitchen!?
February 9, 2014 3:09 pm at 3:09 pm #1002907☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantPopa, I would feel comfortable in someone’s kitchen if I felt like they were trustworthy, and everything they did was halachically legitimate, even if I disagreed with some things.
So I would probably eat in your house. I would just make sure to ask all the relevant questions. As long as people have healthy attitudes towards others’ standards, there doesn’t have to be awkwardness.
The problem is, some people are not trustworthy, and/or their standards are not halachically legitimate, even if they consider themselves Orthodox.
So to the OP: if you feel this “rabbi” is not trustworthy, and/or his psakim are not halachically legitimate, then you absolutely did the right thing, and should definitely stick to your guns on this.
February 9, 2014 3:18 pm at 3:18 pm #1002908SaysMeMemberhey writer-at-heart- it was uncomfortable that’s for sure! I dont think he would have said it if he thought you would hesitate to eat by him, so i dont think he meant to put you on the spot. That being said, i dont think you should have lied. Just one reason would be dealing with an invitation when it came- better to nip that problem in the bud. He may have been caught off guard at your answer but i doubt he’s still offended if he ever was. There are jews on alllll places of the full spectrum and im sure he knows not everyone would trust his level. And definitely no need and you shouldnt go apologize. Dont apologize for your frumkeit! You’re not imposing it on him.
As a thought, realize because the range of jews on college is broad, perhaps his comments/psakei halacha you questioned in the past were for a specific individual he believed needed that heter, and may not be halachically assur but something many are machmir on just etc. Just a thought for dan lkaf zchus, but not a reason to change your stance
February 9, 2014 3:36 pm at 3:36 pm #1002909Torah613TorahParticipantIt was obvious that he caught that I didn’t answer the question, and I feel terrible for my reaction. I know that I should have just lied and said yes and dealt with the consequences whenever they would arise in the future, but I wasn’t thinking on my feet and now I just feel really bad. He had no right to put me on the spot like that, but I still feel bad that he now knows how little I respect his halachic opinions and how little faith I have in his observance of halacha. I don’t know if I should say something in apology, or if I should just let it go, since he’s probably forgotten it at this point. One of the other kids in the room thinks that I should talk out my issues with him, but I don’t think that would be productive at all, since there’s nothing he could say that would make me think he keeps a home up to my standards of kashrus.
I’m sorry you have to deal with this situation. It sounds really challenging, and it’s a credit to you that you can stick to your standards in a less than accommodating environment.
I agree with Popa’s comment.
February 9, 2014 3:43 pm at 3:43 pm #1002910zahavasdadParticipantMany of the Kashruth Standards are just chumras or just being machmir
However Kavod L’Rav is a Halacha
February 9, 2014 3:52 pm at 3:52 pm #1002911popa_bar_abbaParticipantzahavasdad
However Kavod L’Rav is a Halacha
I’m sure to remember you said that.
February 9, 2014 3:56 pm at 3:56 pm #1002912Torah613TorahParticipantMany of the Kashruth Standards are just chumras or just being machmir
However Kavod L’Rav is a Halacha
Nice sound bite, but makes no sense.
You don’t know where her Rav is from, or how educated he is.
Nobody holds by everybody who has smicha.
February 9, 2014 3:59 pm at 3:59 pm #1002913☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantMany of the Kashruth Standards are just chumras or just being machmir
You wouldn’t believe it, but some are actual halachos!
And I think you’d agree that not everyone who calls themselves a rabbi deserves the title or the kavod that cones along with it.
February 9, 2014 4:04 pm at 4:04 pm #1002914popa_bar_abbaParticipantLook, I don’t think we need to so far as deciding whether every rabbi deserves rabbinic respect. There can be rabbis who you rabbinically respect but simply don’t keep your standards of kashrus. For whatever reason we need not address.
February 9, 2014 4:07 pm at 4:07 pm #1002915zahavasdadParticipantLet us assume the OP was talking about a real orthodox Rabbi. She didnt seem to indicate otherwise
Its also not so easy being such a rabbi on a secular college campus especially out of NYC even in the NYC Suburbs
February 9, 2014 4:13 pm at 4:13 pm #1002916LevAryehMemberShe didnt seem to indicate otherwise
She said she wouldn’t eat at his house.
February 9, 2014 4:14 pm at 4:14 pm #1002917zahavasdadParticipantI am just guessing here, but its likely this Rabbis is either A Chabad Rabbi or a Young Israel type. Those are the rabbis most likely found on a Secular College campus.
You are unlikely to find a Lakewood type Rabbi on a College Campus
February 9, 2014 4:29 pm at 4:29 pm #1002918writer.at.heart415MemberTo clarify, this rabbi went to YCT. And I don’t consider him my rav. I only ask him shailos if I need emergency psak and can’t get in touch with my home rav.
February 9, 2014 4:54 pm at 4:54 pm #1002919☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantI wouldn’t even ask him in an emergency.
I don’t know who this particular rabbi is, but I’ve heard of people who call themselves rabbis who are mattir obvious issurim.
One example is toloiom. Some rabbis permit eating salads in a non kosher seting. They probably never learned hilchos toloim, and/ or don’t keep up to date and don’t know that leafy vegetables need checking by a mashgiach.
Another is bishul akum. People aren’t aware that things like pasta and eggs are assur if cooked by a non Jew (eggs are actually mentioned explicitly in Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah 113,14) as being subject to bishul akum.
February 9, 2014 5:05 pm at 5:05 pm #1002920golferParticipantNo advice for you, writer.at.
You noticed on your own- you’re in an awkward situation, and you did the right thing.
I’m here to agree with Torah613, credit to you that you’re sticking to your standards. It’s great that you realize now that this is the way to face this type of predicament. I’m wishing you many happy, good years, but the reality is that life is full of challenging times, and you’re doing yourself a great service by starting out in the right direction.
February 9, 2014 6:31 pm at 6:31 pm #1002925WIYMemberFind some other Rabbi in the community or within the city.
February 9, 2014 8:56 pm at 8:56 pm #1002926rabbiofberlinParticipantWow- Although I respect most of the comments of the posters, few-if any- have ever been a Rabbi outside of New York (or Lakewood and Monsey) and so have very little idea how difficult it may be to follow the chumros you can follow in the New York area. It is easy to be cavalier about other people when you live in a protected environment. Actually, the best thing would have been for “writer-at heart” to say yes , so as not to shame the Rabbi and then- when invited- find some excuse why not to go.
I don’t know where this university is located but couldn’t the poster do some research on the people of the community?
February 9, 2014 10:02 pm at 10:02 pm #1002927MDGParticipantwriter.at.heart415
You did nothing wrong. Quite the contrary. The YCT “rabbi” was pressuring you to bend to his standards, and you set clear lines tactfully. May I be so good.
I would like to give you some free advice. I heard that Rav Moshe has a Teshuva where a lady asked about living in a college dorm. He said that she should not live there. CYLOR.
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“Many of the Kashruth Standards are just chumras or just being machmir”
Even if so (and we don’t know the particulars of this case), being that she accepted them upon herself, they become a neder and she is bound to keep them. See Rav Moshe’s Teshuvot on Chalav Yisrael (Yorah Deah, Volume 1, pages 82-89).
Furthermore, he’s a YCT dude and all bets are off. You don’t have to beleive in Torah M’Sinai to be a YCT “rabbi”. So how can you trust them for anything halachic?
matzav(dot)com/belief-in-torah-min-ha-shamayim-damage-control-by-yct-subtly-defending-the-indefensible
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“It is easy to be cavalier about other people when you live in a protected environment.”
I live out of town, was far out, and I have a number of issues that I deal with. The last time I ate out at a friends house, I brought a bag of flour to my hostess on Thursday so that we could have kemach yashan in Challah and in kugels. If you want it bad enough you’ll get it.
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“Actually, the best thing would have been for ‘writer-at heart’ to say yes , so as not to shame the Rabbi and then- when invited- find some excuse why not to go.”
NO. She nipped it in the bud. Otherwise she would have to deal with similar awkward situations many times in the future. Besides which, he was trying to shame her into saying yes and coerce her – maybe not maliciously – but he should be more thoughtful.
I had a friend that learned in YCT over twelve years ago. According to him, one of the purposes of YCT is to make more people like Avi Weiss and spread the gospel. They (including Linzer) used to make fun of other yeshivas. I don’t beleive that they are happy with “live and let live”. They want to push their agenda.
I have a lot of respect for writer.at.heart415 for nicely giving push back. my emphasis, not a mod’s
February 9, 2014 11:02 pm at 11:02 pm #1002928popa_bar_abbaParticipantROB:
Do you think I’ve seen rabbis and communities outside of NY, monsey, and Lakewood?
Do you really think we are all so sheltered? This is the internet. There’s a lot of us here.
February 10, 2014 12:13 am at 12:13 am #1002929zahavasdadParticipantWhen Rav Nissan Alpert got his job at the White Shul in Far Rockaway, he was not able to find a place to live in far Rockaway for 3 years.
Because he had no place to stay he was forced to stay and eat at the Baal Habatim in the neighborhood. Sometimes the Baal Habatim were not up to his standards and he still ate there anyway.
As told by Hanoch Teller in a biography of Rav Nissim Alpert
February 10, 2014 12:21 am at 12:21 am #1002930☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantZD, Rav Nissan Alpert zt’l was educated enough to know what he could ot could not compromise on.
My educated guess is that this “rabbi” compromises on basic halacha.
February 10, 2014 12:29 am at 12:29 am #1002931zahavasdadParticipantI am not debating this particular circumstance.I am more aimed at other comments. One does need to know when to be Machmir and when to Makil.
DY: You mentioned the Salad. I once had gotten a new job and was forced to go on a busness trip with my new boss on my first day.I assumed (rightly) that he would be taking me out to dinner, Being unfrieldly and not being sociable and not going would not have been a good idea and I didnt know what to do and I asked my Rabbi and specifically said the Salad was OK as long as radishes and onions were not taken because fancy restaurants have seperate salad utencils. I had actually never heard of this before and actually was shocked by the answere.
February 10, 2014 1:44 am at 1:44 am #1002933Torah613TorahParticipantMDG, thanks for that interesting post.
February 10, 2014 1:55 am at 1:55 am #1002934nishtdayngesheftParticipantIt’s nice that people want to be dan the rabbi lkaf zechus that it it is difficult to be machmir in a campus setting. Yet it sems the OP has no issue keeping pretty much her regular level of kashrus. She is on the same campus. So that argument holds no water.
February 10, 2014 1:57 am at 1:57 am #1002935nishtdayngesheftParticipantZD,
But we are talking about this particular circumstance. It seems you are trying to back off because your assumption was so off base. You really need to stop trolling.
February 10, 2014 2:43 am at 2:43 am #1002938MDGParticipantTorah613Torah,
Thanks for your comment. You made my day. We all need a lift sometimes 🙂
February 10, 2014 5:44 am at 5:44 am #1002939SaysMeMemberim not quite following the majority opinion here that saying no was a lack of kavod. S/he did it in the best way by not being direct but rather avoiding answering imo, but in any case, if w.a.h. (im just gonna assume female 🙂 )was makpid on yoshon, cholov yisroel, or gebroktz and the rabbi was not, would that be a lack of kavod for her to say she wouldn’t join him for his meals? He was asking if she would eat by him, and she declined. Thats a lack of kavod how?
More importantly, im not quite following why this turned into a bashing thread, or why half the above posts were allowed up. One way or another, it’s loshon hora with no tachlis here.
February 10, 2014 5:57 am at 5:57 am #1002940☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantSaysMe,
On the contrary, most posters felt that the OP acted appropriately to keep to her standards of kashrus.
She did nothing to demean him, and came here because she felt she could have done even more to save face.
I’m not sure against whom you think loshon hora was said, although I certainly think there was tachlis in giving her chizuk in keeping a higher standard under difficult circumstances.
February 10, 2014 6:43 am at 6:43 am #1002941Sam2ParticipantI will start this post with a disclaimer: There are people (at least a few) who attended YCT who are good, Ehrlich people that have complete Ne’emanus. Just because the institution is Passul that does not mean that everyone who attended there is.
That being said, to writer.at.heart: A YCT “Rabbi” who claims to be Orthodox with his YCT Smicha without in some way distancing himself from the institution is neither Orthodox nor a Rabbi. Honestly, if there is literally no other option, I’d rather a mod give you my email so you could ask me shailas in emergency situations than him. Rav Schachter has said many times (and I think he is very right) that listening to Psakim from non-Orthodox Rabbis falls under Yeihareg V’al Ya’avor. Your intuition is better than his. He is not someone who should be asked a Shaila in any situation unless he is publicly willing to state that YCT and their associates have done things that put them beyond the pale of our Mesorah.
February 10, 2014 1:49 pm at 1:49 pm #1002942Torah613TorahParticipantShe did nothing to demean him, and came here because she felt she could have done even more to save face.
Yes, that’s how I understood this thread.
February 10, 2014 3:49 pm at 3:49 pm #1002943kollel_wifeParticipantI think she also said “I don’t eat at other peoples houses.” If the topic comes up again, she can explain this is her family minhag. Similar to not “mishing” on Pesach. The person who they don’t eat by might be their best friend/neighbor, but this is a minhag they have. Therefore no offense should be taken. Even wouldn’t eat at the Rabbi’s house, irrelevant of their halachic/haskafic differences.
February 10, 2014 4:44 pm at 4:44 pm #1002944writer.at.heart415MemberWell I do eat at people’s houses if I know they’re totally legit. I just don’t often do so, because there aren’t that many people who I think are legit.
February 10, 2014 4:46 pm at 4:46 pm #1002945popa_bar_abbaParticipantI used to once upon a time live in a community like that.
Originally, I thought I’d have a policy that I don’t eat out anywhere except at rabbis’ houses (which wouldn’t work here, I guess). But then I decided I’d just say no where I wasn’t comfortable, and yes where I was. I ended up eating at a total of like 4 houses besides my own.
Theirs, theirs, theirs, theirs, and theirs. That’s five. But maybe not all at the same time.
Really, I would be invited and I’d just say I can’t come, sorry, thanks for the invite. Nobody ever pressed the issue.
I was surprises at the people who thought I would eat at their house. I’m like, if you write on facebook that you’re eating at a non-kosher restaurant, I’m not going to eat at your house! (But instead I just said I can’t make it)
February 10, 2014 5:04 pm at 5:04 pm #1002946mom12ParticipantIf he is a true ‘rabbi’ he will definitely understand and not be offended..
I agree with ‘kollel wife’
February 10, 2014 11:14 pm at 11:14 pm #1002947BustercrownParticipantZAHAVAS dad: I’m not sure what Rav u asked but u should certainly not eat salad in a treife restaurant. There is the problem of tolaim in greens and the utensils and knives can not be trusted to have been clean and not touched tarfus.
February 11, 2014 12:55 pm at 12:55 pm #1002948zahavasdadParticipantZAHAVAS dad: I’m not sure what Rav u asked but u should certainly not eat salad in a treife restaurant. There is the problem of tolaim in greens and the utensils and knives can not be trusted to have been clean and not touched tarfus.
Did you actually ask anyone. You should never poskin yourself. Not that I should have to defend myself, but I asked an actual orthodox rabbi and not a YCT one either. Just because you dont like a Psak doesnt mean it isnt valid
I also had some pretty frum relatives who had gone on a cruise. And had ordered Kosher Food (You can order Kosher food for cruises at no additional cost – Its airline food) On the same cruise there was a Kosherica cruise (They dont buy the entire cruise just some cabins) and they spoke to the Mashgiach on the cruise and he told them the same thing about the salad.
February 11, 2014 1:24 pm at 1:24 pm #1002949oot for lifeParticipantKol hakavod OP
You shouldn’t have to lower your standards. It is an absolute myth that you cannot be frum out side of nyc. You might have given this yct rabbi the wrong impression though by asking him shailos in the past. I would refrain from doing that in the future otherwise he may view himself as your rav.
February 11, 2014 2:08 pm at 2:08 pm #1002950Avram in MDParticipantwriter.at.heart415,
It was obvious that he caught that I didn’t answer the question, and I feel terrible for my reaction. I know that I should have just lied and said yes and dealt with the consequences whenever they would arise in the future, but I wasn’t thinking on my feet and now I just feel really bad.
I think your sensitivity to the campus rabbi’s feelings is a wonderful thing. My guess is that he wasn’t particularly offended; after all, his job on the campus is to assist a diverse body of Jewish students, not to get emotional reassurance that every student trusts his kashrus and would eat in his home. You stated clearly that you don’t eat in other people’s homes without knowing their specific standards, and he should respect that, even if he thinks it is strange.
If you are still worried about having caused him offense, and assuming that you are planning to largely forgo eating food cooked at anyone’s homes near campus (but are ok with eating food you know to be kosher in their homes), you can perhaps say something like, “I’m sorry I didn’t answer you before, it was hard at that moment to fully describe how I handle kashrus away from home. I would love to eat at your home, but to avoid offending anyone who may have kashrus standards that I am not comfortable with, I have a policy with everyone who I am not closely familiar with, even those who’s standards I would probably trust, to only eat foods that are brought in from an outside kosher establishment with [insert local hashgacha you trust, if any] and are not reheated (or reheated double wrapped). I really appreciate your invitation, but totally understand if my policy is too much of a challenge on short notice. I can bring something too, if that would be helpful…” That way, you can avoid eating at his home (or perhaps eat something there that you feel comfortable eating) without telling him that you don’t trust his kashrus, and also without fibbing that you trust it, but then have to make excuses every time you get an invitation.
February 11, 2014 2:25 pm at 2:25 pm #1002951Avram in MDParticipantzahavasdad,
I also had some pretty frum relatives who had gone on a cruise. And had ordered Kosher Food (You can order Kosher food for cruises at no additional cost – Its airline food) On the same cruise there was a Kosherica cruise (They dont buy the entire cruise just some cabins) and they spoke to the Mashgiach on the cruise and he told them the same thing about the salad.
The problem is not with the mashgiach’s statement, but how you are applying it here. The cruise mashgiach was telling your relatives that that particular salad on that particular cruise was kosher and could be eaten. He was in the kitchen and knew how the salad was prepared (e.g., pre-washed iceberg lettuce that didn’t need checking, vegetables precut in a bag with a hechsher or cut with a dedicated knife). I seriously doubt that he was giving them a carte blanche to eat salads in every treif restaurant, everywhere, forevermore. Salads with unchecked romaine or other leafy greens, or with vegetables cut with a treif knife are problematic. You cannot take a specific psak given in a particular circumstance and apply it to other contexts.
February 11, 2014 3:27 pm at 3:27 pm #1002952🍫Syag LchochmaParticipantAvram – excellent post. When I worked in a hospital, the mashgiach there told me the salad bar was no problem, but that was specifically because of the way things worked in THAT kitchen. I know someone in treif food service who told me that it will often happen that a waiter/cook will put salad on a plate with food and then remember the costumer ordered fries or chips and will then put the salad back into the bin. He said they will also use the same gloves when plating the sandwiches as the salad (which they do by the gloved handfuls in many places), even though the knives were separate.
February 11, 2014 3:41 pm at 3:41 pm #1002953zahavasdadParticipantAvram,
When I origially asked the question, I had no idea where I was going nor was I even sure it would happen . I just asked simply I am going on a business trip (On my first day no less) with a new boss and I suspect he will take me out to dinner.
February 11, 2014 4:05 pm at 4:05 pm #1002954heretohelpMemberFirst, let me say I don’t think anyone did anything wrong here. I don’t think the OP did anything wrong, but I also don’t understand with the people who are so quick to jump on this Rabbi as someone who probably compromises on basic halacha.
But with that out of the way, there’s something that puzzles me about this whole situation. The OP states that she was having a conversation with this Rabbi about building community with other frum people that live nearby. Was she in this conversation unwillingly? Was this conversation adversarial? I mean, let’s build community with other nearby frum people and I don’t eat in other people’s homes seem like two opposite thoughts. Eating together, sharing a meal together- its one of the basic building blocks of community. Offering someone something to eat- its basic manners. I’m not at all suggesting that anyone compromise their kashrus, but if you start from the premise that you don’t eat in other people’s homes, I mean, the rest of the conversation about building community has got to be pretty short, right?
February 11, 2014 4:16 pm at 4:16 pm #1002955☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantZD, the rav may have held that you don’t have to be choshesh for treif’e utensils or remixing of the salad. (He excluded onions and radishes which are davar charif (sharp) because even a clean knife that wasn’t used in 24 hours would make it assur.) That part makes sense for your situation of sha’as had’chak/hefsed merubah. The part I don’t get is unchecked romaine lettuce; I assume he didn’t mean to include that.
Avram, I thinking telling the rabbi a whole megillah about a policy not to eat in others’ homes unless she knows them well would insult him. At this point, I think the less said, the better.
February 11, 2014 5:24 pm at 5:24 pm #1002956MDGParticipantSaysMe said,
“More importantly, im not quite following why this turned into a bashing thread…”
I feel that I did more basing than anyone else; at lease I posted the longest. My point was not to bash, but to make writer.at.heart415 aware of what she is dealing with and the possible problems that may come up.
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