Reply To: Is there a tactful way to say Shadchan prefers money?

Also also, I would really be wary of making assumptions as to what the family does or doesn’t intend to do based on a vague comment made at the vort.

Possibly, but in the past this Shadchan has gotten $50 and $100 checks, in one case from comfortable people where the wedding was held in a fancy establishment… yes, I know… I know…. you never know who paid for the wedding…and you cant judge.

Interestingly though, from experience throughout the years, most of those who have paid the typical average to generous amount, have been the poorer simpler people, and it was paid at the Vort, and we’ve heard the same from other Shadchanim.