Syag,
Some direct quotes from you:
“I don’t think a person can consider being a shadchan as being a job.”
Well, halacha, in any meaningful way, does.
“If I can’t find $5 for my kids class gift to someone, how can you tell me I NEED to come up with that kind of money.”
Where does halacha reduce an obligation based on inability to pay? (without mechila)
“What a crazy concept that facilitating a marriage that was ordained by Hashem himself ENTITLES you to money I need to feed my kids.”
Again, not halachically correct. Providing a service does halachically entitle one to monetary compensation.
I don’t think I misquoted; I copied and pasted.
It seems you’re arguing in concept, not merely amount or location. If you were to tayna that in your location, the amount is lower, I would be fine with that.