Reply To: Sephardi Shidduchim

Softwords, our mentality is no different than yours. We are not traditionally Sephardi and are educated. Sephardi is just a label as is Ashkenazi. I deal with both Ashkenazi and Sephardi shadchanim. But the yeshivish world is run mainly by Ashkenazim and many do not accept that you really are yeshivish and so they have given us thousands of modern suggestions. (Thanks for the blessings.)

SaysMe, we are not looking for specifically Sephardi or specifically Ashkenazi. The shadchan in the Lakewood organization said lots of Sephardim come here to marry Ashkenazim, but they don’t want you (yes, those were her exact words). So I said, give me a Sephardi suggestion to which she replied we don’t deal with Sephardim.

I think that shadchanim should check a person’s frumkeit level before sending suggestions and not decide that because you are Sephardi,there is no way you can be as frum as I am. We are strictly frum, barely any outside influences, tznius, halacha followed entirely. My child has not been to any mixed gathering, not mixed schools or anywhere else. But we still get modern suggestions. My question is does my child have to become modern to marry just because we’re Sephardi?