“Lowering standards is certainly not a segulah to invoke rachmei Shamaim.”
Apparently, it invoked rachamei shamayim for me. Happily married to a wonderful person.
Baskah, listen to peeople like me, who have tried it with success. You won’t go off the derech. Nothing will happen. It’s not any less tznius than going on a date. You don’t need the stamp of a shadchan to make the ecnounter kosher.