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Oomis:
This is one of the (very few) times I feel I have to disagree.
While it’s true Yaakov did “fall in love” with Rochel, he was certainly on a higher plane than our fleshy desires and cravings, as Logician noted, brought too in many seforim.
However, you are right to a degree, as the Ohr Hachaim writes, the Torah, while relating any episode chooses the wording it does to teach the right way of life. So yes, to propose (however way deemed appropriate) is commendable, actually a (hecsher) Mitzva.
The main point I’m disagreeing on, is that there’s a place for everything. The setting of a propositioning is not really in line with the Kedusha of the Kosel, or any Holy area. Actually it really should be done more privately as the setting of one’s intimate closeness with his/her future other half. We find in Gemarah it’s wrong to be Mekadesh in a public domain, it’s not something done in the “public eye”, it’s a private thing, introducing a “home privacy”. This is certainly not in line with the Kedusha, the decorum of a holy place.
There are many Mitzvhos. To attend one’s bodily needs is also a Mitzvah, yet it’s certainly not done in a holy place, nor in any public area. Every Mitzvah, every deed has its place, its proper setting. Feelings of awe and respect, holiness and sanctity are the right settings for a Makom Kadosh.