Ah, this reminds me of the story of my dumb friend. http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/my-dumb-friend
Remember him?
So against my advice he married that girl. And they had a great marriage for 15 years, and had lots of really dumb kids who they both thought were really smart, and they were great parents to them.
Well, one day he comes home in a bad mood, and he yells at the kids, and is mean to his wife, and slams the door, and drinks beer after supper while doing YWN on the computer.
And then for like two weeks he’s coming home every night in a bad mood and yelling at the kids and being mean to his wife and slamming the door, and sometimes drinking beer but always doing YWN and posting dumb things because he’s dumb.
So she goes to the rav, and says she wants a divorce because her husband always is mean to her and yells at the kids and slams doors and does YWN and sometimes drinks beer.
So the rav asks, ok, but what is he normally like? So she says, I just told you! He yells at the kids and is mean to me and slams the door and sometimes drinks beer but always does YWN on his computer.
So the rav says, ok, but what was he like 2 weeks ago? Oh! 2 weeks ago? Why didn’t you ask? He was a great husband 2 weeks ago, and for the past 15 years.
So the rav says if has been a great husband for 15 years, maybe she shouldn’t be so fast to divorce him, because maybe this last 2 weeks is not really him.
But she says, no. I’m not married to who he was 2 weeks ago, or 2 years ago. I’m married to who he is right now, and I don’t want to be married to who he is right now, so I want a divorce.
(And of course you remember he is a kohen, and boy was that get mekushar expensive! (Kidding, there was no get; she wouldn’t accept a get unless he agreed to never see the kids; boy were you gullible and thought there really was a get. What do you think this is? Hollywood? Megilas Lester?))