ZeesKite~ I can understand how this thread can be disturbing.
for years when all my children were younger/living at home, & I worked, & my husband worked full days/late hours, we would finish up for Bedeket Chometz late in the night.. & be covering counters & tables erev Yontif. but– as has been said to death- we all sit down to the Seder at the same time.
I almost feel like I’m cheating… I have a girl coming over 2-3 times a week, doing one complete room a day [spring cleaning].. & I’m not ‘down in the trenches’ cleaning my fingers down to the bone. (thank G-D for self-cleaning ovens, too).
I’ve been reading all your posts (PLEASE get more sleep!!!!) & I’m sure, that for the removal of all the chometz from your home & life, you will be rewarded, iy’H.
stay strong, but don’t make yourself crazy! 🙂