Yserbius123, we cancel out with most my friends which saves a lot of social grief. There are always 3-4 family and friends who don’t want to cancel, and these are the ones we are mekayem the mitzvah with.
We also try and give our irreligious neighbours too each year (we keep on discovering new ones). I’m not sure they really appreciate it, as some of them feel they have to return the favour but any excuse to touch base with my Jewish neighbours.
In total we give about 8-10 each year and yes, we do include something that can be used for the seuda, sometimes homemade stuff.