No Thanks for Your Mishloach Manos!

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    tro11
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    I love receiving mishloach manos. I appreciate the gesture and love that I am able to help you fulfill a Mitzva. But please, don’t give me your home-made junk. It’s disgusting.

    #1009877

    BYbychoice
    Member

    i think its sweet people take out the time to make things and everything but sometimes its just like come on,i was at your house when you where making it and saw your kids hands in it all give me a break!

    #1009878

    MorahRach
    Member

    Why is it disgusting?

    #1009879

    Ingrate.

    #1009880

    tro11
    Member

    I give you a nice thoughtful mishloach manos, and all i get back is a lousy, inedible chocolate mousse. Please don’t give me last night’s dinner either. I got one of those.

    #1009881

    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    People like to get rid of their homemade junk before pesach; you really can’t complain about it.

    #1009882

    Just smile and say thank you. It’s supposed to be Ish L’Reieihu -appreciate the gesture of friendship and say thanks. You don’t want to eat it, don’t – but don’t offend the giver.

    #1009883

    tro11
    Member

    yeshivaworlder great minds think alike! Thats exactly what i do because I am a mentch. I smile and say thank you. I hold myself back from throwing it back in the giver’s face. It’s especially difficult when I just gave you a delicious bag of Dipsy Doodles and some tasty candy, and I receive in return an oat kugel that resembles cement. When I get home I simply transfer the contents of your grotesque mishloach manos to the nearest waste basket. As I am sure many of you do. Or I simply feed it to my kids.

    Maybe people are misunderstanding my point. I understand that you are cheap and don’t want to spend money on edible food, but I pity you for standing over a hot oven for hours on end cooking (insert noun here) that will end up in various waste baskets throughout your respective neighborhood. You might well serve it to us uncooked, it will save you the effort.

    #1009884

    Pba, nah, most of the homemade junk is made davka for mishloach manos.

    #1009885

    tro11
    Member

    DaasYochid, how suddenly you turned from a gentleman to one of us.

    #1009886

    I just think that most people are really trying to please others, and even if you don’t like the food, you should appreciate the effort.

    #1009887

    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Or I simply feed it to my kids.

    Perhaps they intended it as kid food? They know that feeding kids is expensive and wanted to help you out.

    #1009888

    tro11
    Member

    They are not doing it to please others, they are doing it to save money. Which is fine. But then please let me know before I give you my mishloach manos, so that I can give it to someone else who will reciprocate with something decent.

    #1009889

    I give mishloach manos to do a mitzvah, and to increase achdus and friendship, not to get dipsy doodles back.

    #1009890

    tro11
    Member

    DY, well you are definitely not increasing any friendships by pawning off a lousy salami sandwich on me.

    #1009891

    tro11
    Member

    Next year I will have to give to better people.

    #1009892

    I used Grey Poupon – you didn’t like it?

    #1009893

    seeallsides
    Participant

    There are people who think anybody else’s homemade food is disgusting-I don’t think that the yiddishe derech took those feelings into consideration.

    Many people who are very careful in Halacha, insist on giving food that can be eaten by the Seuda, and that only then are you really yotzeh in mishloach manos. I got some challah/kugels that i put on my seuda table – I would never call it disgusting- they were delicious.

    It could be that the ‘cement’ cookies were delicious when they were baked, and got unexpectedly hard because the packages were made erev Shabbos, as the motzai shabbos setup was a little challenging – clean up from Shabbos, dress the kids, prepare the seuda and shalach manos…….Don’t be so makpid and calculate your net loss/profit on your shalach manos – it’s meant to generate feelings of comradery and achdus.

    #1009894

    tro11
    Member

    I liked the Grey Poupon but next time please hold the sandwich.

    #1009895

    Torah613Torah
    Participant

    I ate the 2 lunch shalach monos we got today. Yum yum yummy. As long as you label your home-cooked food Yoshon, we’re golden.

    #1009896

    tro11
    Member

    But I am sure you can understand my frustrations when I try to give a thoughtful mishloach manos, and one after another all I get in return is some smashed homemade chocolate cake that is headed straight to the waste receptacle.

    #1009897

    tro11
    Member

    And one person didn’t even give me any mishloach manos in return – the ingrate (he said he didn’t have any). And my Rosh Yeshiva didn’t give me one either but I am mochel him (he can’t give everybody).

    #1009898

    ThePurpleOne
    Member

    tro11-

    im not sure where ur coming from but EVERYONE besides for u rly appreciates homemade stuff waay more than just careless store bought.. making homemade shows u care and made the time and effort and worked hard.. plus tastes better too!! wayyy more caring and thoughtful..

    #1009899

    tro11
    Member

    Yeah I appreciate it more also. But they are just being cheap. And nobody eats it, so why waste all the time and energy?

    #1009900

    tro11
    Member

    And woudn’t you prefer a box of Lieber’s wafer rolls and a chocolate bar to some cold pea soup?

    #1009901

    Torah613Torah
    Participant

    I agree with TPO. Home-made food is usually much more delicious than the others. And financially it makes more sense too. Just please label it Yoshon or it goes to our non-Jewish neighbors and friends.

    #1009902

    takahmamash
    Participant

    Dipsy Doodles? Candy? C’mon, I don’t need you to do my grocery shopping for me? I can go to the store and get that myself, and probably pay less for it than you do.

    #1009903

    tro11
    Member

    I don’t understand what you are saying. You don’t pay for it, I do. But wouldn’t you just prefer the money? That’s exactly what I am saying. Just give me the money instead of your leftover dinner.

    And if I go grocery shopping for you, you should be appreciative especially since you don’t have to throw it out as soon as I deliver it.

    #1009904

    tro11
    Member

    And here’s the point. How many of you would rather eat your wife’s (or your own if you are the woman) home cooked meal over some good greasy take out food? That’s what I thought. So why do you suppose I would want to eat your wife’s (or your own if you are the woman) “delicious” (cough cough) food.

    If any of you are planning to give me mishloach manos next year I like dipsy doodles, chocolate bars, store baked rugalach, store baked brownies, and factory produced candy. Thank you and a freilichen purim.

    #1009905

    I’ll hold the sandwich, but please be careful not to bite my hand.

    #1009906

    Mammele
    Participant

    Just fyi, some store baked rugelach are not as appetizing as they appear. Watch how they bake/store/ship it…

    #1009907

    rebdoniel
    Member

    I keep it simple and cheap.

    An Arizona drink, a bag of chips, and a packaged hamantash with a ribbon tied around it.

    I don’t like eating things made in private kitchens; I don’t know how clean people are and I don’t know their kashrut standards (similarly, I would expect people to feel the same about me).

    #1009908

    MDG
    Participant

    “And here’s the point. How many of you would rather eat your wife’s (or your own if you are the woman) home cooked meal over some good greasy take out food? “

    My wife’s or mine (I cook also).

    #1009909

    MDG
    Participant

    “When I get home I simply transfer the contents of your grotesque mishloach manos to the nearest waste basket. As I am sure many of you do. Or I simply feed it to my kids.”

    I guess you don’t regard your kids highly.

    In fact, it seems that you don’t have much respect for many people either.

    #1009910

    a mamin
    Participant

    rebdoniel: If you would see the kitchens in most take out food stores, I promise you would never eat out again!

    #1009911

    twisted
    Participant

    I have always made the effort to send real food, as opposed to theme junk, and packaged sugary snacks. That does not preclude creativity. Mishloach manos should not be that different then the homemade comfort foods that we send as chessed packages to kimpatorin. That’s the essence of the Halocha, n’est pas?

    #1009912

    MorahRach
    Member

    You keep saying that most people throw it out anyway.. No one I know! My favorite hamentashen were the muffins, hamantashen and various other baked goods. If they are labeled and you trust your friends what is the issue? I got texts and calls about how tasty my fudge filled hamantashen tasted. I also send store bought nosh and soda but.. Yikes I hope no one felt about my shalach Manos as you did!

    #1009913

    DaMoshe
    Participant

    Mishloach Manos is supposed to be something that can be used for a seudah. According to some, you might not be yotze by giving a bag of chips and a soda. You should give something that you can be koveah seudah on. If you want to give chips and a soda, make sure you give at least one person a challah roll with it!

    My wife and I gave some people (our Rav, and kids’ Morahs) a “fancy” mishloach manos, which contained a roll, hamentashen, fruit, and a bottle of wine.

    For everyone else, we did a breakfast theme – single-serve cereal bowl, boxed milk, bottle of water, and a hamentash. We also put in a spoon to eat the cereal with.

    #1009914

    rebdoniel
    Member

    I’ve heard al pi Rambam that some give tavshilin for Mishloach Manot.

    #1009915

    takahmamash
    Participant

    We didn’t give to one of our friends this year because she told my wife that she takes all the handmade stuff and dumps it in the garbage. Oh well.

    We gave healthy this year – my wife made up salads in a little container, and packaged it with breadsticks and salad dressing.

    For everyone else, we did a breakfast theme – single-serve cereal bowl, boxed milk, bottle of water, and a hamentash. We also put in a spoon to eat the cereal with.

    One year I had a friend who gave me a corned beef sandwich, chips, and a bottle of beer. That was great!

    #1009916

    mewho
    Participant

    bring it to the office. they eat everything!

    #1009917

    miritchka
    Member

    tro11: you keep mentioning how cheap it is to send baked goods over store bought chips and candy. So you’re saying that a can of soda, roughly 50 cents, a bag of chips, roughly 25 cents, and a couple of taffies, roughly 30 cents, which totals (drumroll) $1.05 is worth more than a homemade kugel (by the way, it takes time to make kugel/cake. and time is money too but for arguments sake, just leave it at that.) with a fruit or drink?! You seem obsessed with the “cheapness” of homemade goods. My husband doesnt want us to eat others homemade goods unless he knows them very well (this basically only includes family, not friends and neighbors). Instead of throwing it out, we give it to others who would eat it.

    So maybe next year, save the $20 total you spend on JUNK for mishloach manos, with your attitude, its not worth getting mishloach manos from you any way.

    #1009918

    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    So this guy walks up to me at the first seudah I was at, and gives me a shalach manos bag. It was a very nice one, with very nice things inside.

    So I told him, you know, there is no way I am remembering to take this with me. And he says, you better remember.

    Then he comes back to me the next day, and asks if I took it. Of course I didn’t take it!

    So then he gets huffy at me, and says he won’t give me next year. I told him to give it all to tro11.

    #1009919

    sw33t
    Member

    this might be the funniest thread i’ve read here so far…

    I equally despise receiving baked goods, annd the bags of candy and chips. mmmh cheap, pareve, sat on the shelf for 6 months, wafers are my favorite..another laffy taffy… yay said no one ever.

    everyone should just give each other pizza. or maybe shawarma laffas. burgers??

    one year i got one that was three different kind of ice cream and ice cream cones. best purim ever.

    #1009920

    bp27
    Participant

    rebdoniel – “I don’t like eating things made in private kitchens; I don’t know how clean people are and I don’t know their kashrut standards (similarly, I would expect people to feel the same about me).”

    Trust me, after reading your Pesach post, your expectations would be very correct!

    #1009921

    apushatayid
    Participant

    “But I am sure you can understand my frustrations when I try to give a thoughtful mishloach manos,”

    Can you define a thoughtful mishloach manos?

    #1009922

    mewho
    Participant

    delivering ice cream is not easy

    what happens when someone is not home. you cant leave it outside their door. also, the first couple people you deliver to get frozen ice cream, the others get ice cream soup.

    #1009923

    thehock
    Member

    @tro11

    You need to get friends with better kitchen skills. We got many delicious home-baked goods that you can’t find in a typical bakery.

    #1009924

    sw33t
    Member

    i don’t diasgree, I would never do it.

    but it was awesome being on the receiving end.

    #1009925

    apushatayid
    Participant

    “delivering ice cream is not easy”

    True. Is why someone on east 3rd in brooklyn brought an ice cream truck to the block and had everyone line up and order what they wanted.

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