As soon as you are engaged you should make plans on how you will provide for your wife and i”yh your family, learning in kollel is a wonderful thing but a man has to be responsible to his future wife a person can still be an ehrliche yid even if he works 12 hours a day, a person who is old enough to marry is old enough to support himself without parental or in law assistance.
When exactly did work become a four letter word?