Teens usually act out because they want to be independent and be their own person. they need both space and boundaries. It’s hard to find a balance, but we should keep trying. Some advice i read somewhere was talk to them about things, listen to them, and pick what to be strict about, for ex. drinking, etc. and what to let go, for ex. a small thing that’s irritating but Not important.
For parents in general, Project Yes has some good parenting resources B’H