pixelate, I volenteer by a place which deals with kids from chasidesh/ Haimesh homes who are at risk. I don’t know if you are serious or not, but you should know two things:
1. You want to prove to him that you love him unconditionally (this does not happen by hitting it actually turns him off).
2. That when it comes to hitting your son who is a teenager, he will do just the oposite of what you want. Having a heart to heart conversation (with the parents not on their devices) with him may bring out a better results.