DY: I know, I was just telling you it exists.
Splenda (Joseph): That is ridiculous. Rabbeinu Gershom didn’t give women the right to abuse their husbands. People were giving Gittin too early without their wives acknowledging the marriage is over, so Rabbeinu Gershom said you need the agreement of both parties. When the marriage is clearly over (e.g. one sided says that there is 0 chance whatsoever for reconciliation) and the other side refuses to acknowledge that, then withholding the Get (or refusing to receive one) is chaining your spouse to you unfairly and unnecessarily, which is a very abusive action.