Reply To: Non-halachic question

Anyone can just type the name of the hall into Google and get the address and directions. “

They shouldn’t have to do that. Maybe when I invite someone to my home for a Shabbos meal, I shouldn’t tell them my address,either, but just hope they somehow Google me, and show up.

Many people whom I know (some of whom are older than I), don’t even own a computer, much less know how to Google something on one. And why should someone be made to feel he is not wanted, which is how it would look to me, were I not given directions to a simcha. So many places have similar-sounding names, also, and people could mamesh end up at the wrong simcha!

Keep your fancy nonsense, and show some derech eretz for the rest of the world, who are not in your social circle, I say!

Thank you, Golfer, for your good wishes and kind words. Anyone who knows me well, and those of you who know me here, also know that I hate conflict, and try to avoid it like the plague. I feel that it is so important to deal with people respectfully, though sometimes it becomes a little trying. That said, sometimes it hits you baal korchecha, and you have to find ways to deal with the conflict, causing the least damage in the process.

I wish this were the only inyan, but it is very challenging when both sets of parents are not only not on the same page, but in two different books altogether!!! I have developed a whole new appreciation for my wonderul in-laws O”H, who though not frum, gave such kovod and cooperation to my parents in planning our wedding, and only wanted what was best for us. And my parents, likewise, showed them the same level of kovod, while greatly appreciating that there was never any question on my inlaws’ parts that the chasunah would be done in the religious way deemed proper by my family.

At the end of the day (and I am starting to be irritated by that phrase, for some reason), the important thing is that the young couple getting married truly build a bayis ne’eman b’Yisroel together. And that is my wish for them, without drama. My wish for ME is that I get to make the simach B’SIMCHA.