This is a real nisayon because you have to depend on your brain and your vocabulary. You really have to talk instead of going out to places. Well what kind of places do you normally go to? If you are worried about background music I don’t think that is a problem because you are not going there to davka listen to music. There are plenty of milchig places to eat or you can go to a fleishig place and eat fish, so that is not a problem. You can still go bowling or to ESPN, so that’s not a problem, so what is exactly the problem? You are allowed to shower and wear clean clothes to date and I am sure that you can shave if you are on a first date or that YOU as the girl can understand that a young man has a 3 week beard.
What exactly is the hardship?