This is a little silly. Do you think that publishing people’s names in a newspaper will actually get anything done? Sure, we can burn tires in front of their homes as well. But we will only be adding to the 97% of Khal Yisrael that is not frum. Yes, throw her out without a Kesubah. It usually is a joint effort, if not with the open then the tactile approval of the husband. And find the husband who is looking to throw out the mother of his children because she doesn’t cover her knees. Sure, it’s all true from a technical halachic standpoint, but irrelevant, because certainly we’re trying to actually get something done, not just make some noise.
Is there a problem? Certainly. I don’t know the solution, and know that we men are just as much part of the problem. Women are merely the canary in the coal mine. The priorities of our community have been dramatically warped in the last decade, and the battle lines have been redrawn totally. The infusion of Kollel, a Shidduch Crisis, internet addiction, a general destruction of any semeblance of decency in geenral secular culture have taken their horrible toll. But “for every thousand who strike at the leaves of evil, there is one striking at the root” – Thoreau.
Rumor has it – and where or not it happened is irrelevant, as it is still true – that a Bais Yakov HS asked for permission to edit their photos in their yearbook. Apparently, your HS photo is your photo for shidduch eternity. They decided to test out the hypothesis. They inserted the photo of a model, made up a name and added horrible lashon hara about her throughout the yearbook, and added that she was going into rehab instead of seminary. The Menaheles received a number of phone from shadchanim, and one from a parent. The girls got permission to photoshop their photos. Sad, really. But reality. That’s the reality we’ve gotto change. Ultimately, under the surface, in the guts of things, we worship beauty. Just not as openly as the secular world. When that worhsip really changes, then things will change. Until then, young ladies will live according to that which we teach them – really, really, teach, what we demand for our sons, not that which we preach. But how do we change? How does a community change? The delicate channel we have the secular world, taking the good and leaving the bad – has become skewed. And now what?
I wish I had the glib one line, terribly sure answer, and comfortably condemn thousands of women to the depths of hell, unless, of course they listen to me immediately. I know that I’m part of the problem, and that I’ve got to change. That’s going to be hard enough for me.
Besides, we’d have to add another supplement to the Hamodiah for such a list, and that something I certainly wouldn’t want responsiblity for.