yerushalmi in exile: I’m going to call you out on this, because it’s one of my biggest pet peeves and you just made a very unfair emotional attack on someone. Please forgive me if I’m too harsh with this.
With your argument, you can Asser anything. We know you can’t shower during the 9 days. Would an Aveil think to ask a Shaila about washing his hands? He’d be too stricken with grief to even think about it. How dare you even think to wash your hands during this Aveilus for the Churban??!
That argument is ridiculous because it is a clear exaggeration. But if a capella isn’t Assur, then your response to the a capella Shaila is just as ridiculous as my response to washing hands at all.
The fact is, there are Halachos. It’s not for us to try and find the feeling behind the Halachos and use that to attempt to circumvent the Halachah. If it’s Muttar, it’s Muttar. If it’s Assur, it’s Assur. But what you just did was attempt to use an emotional attack and to guilt-trip someone into not caring what the Halachah actually is. So yes, we were given the Halachos to find out the Halachos, not to guilt people into circumventing them.