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Hello to you too, takahm!
I’m having a hard time believing you seriously got insulted.
But in case you really are serious about feeling hurt by a comment I made, you have my sincere apology on a silver platter. From the heart.
Not sure how you can feel personally insulted, though. If I had (Heaven forbid) remarked unfavorably on the intelligence, charm, middos, or other attributes of your offspring, then perhaps you might feel hurt. As we all know, we are in partnership in raising our children, and may feel slighted when others point out that we have not done a stellar job. But actually having daughters, sons, and any combination thereof is totally not in our hands. As the gemara teaches us, (the scholars of the CR will perhaps find the exact source for us) there are 3 keys that HKB”H entrusts to no one else- the keys of rain, childbirth, and Techiyas Hameisim (may it be soon in our days).
Every child that is entrusted to our care by HKB”H, Who in His unfathomable kindness allows us to partner with Him in the creation of a Jewish soul, is a gift beyond compare. And no human being may ever disparage such a gift, regardless of its gender or the color of its eyes.
Certainly takahm, you didn’t imagine that I was giving you the credit for actually having daughters, did you?