Interesting point. I’m tired so i wont be as concise and i may ramble a bit but im pretty sure the answer to your questions in here somewhere.
We know theres something called hishtadlus- going thru the motions of doing what you can. Noones says you shouldnt daven for shidduch “help”. In fact, many people think doing every segulah in the book (that book wud make a killing) and running to every man with a beard for a bracha is also nuts. Just be a good jew, pray, have bitachon, do your hishtadlus and let hashem take care of everything.
SOMEONE PLEASE CORRECT ME IF IM WRONG- Hishtadlus means doing something reasonable al pi tevah. We have our gedolim with our mesorah and they feel that mekubalim aren’t our way. There are a couple of stories of gedoylim that cudve been saved by mekubalim and disregarded that. If it is your mesorah then enjoy.
Now fixing the shidduch “crisis” is an obligation on us for a hishtadlus reasons. Rechnitz isnt using shaimos of the tzitz and toads. All al pi tevah.
DISCLAIMER: i just reread this and it’s terribly confusing but im to tired to do abetter job sorry. frown face.