oomis, when a father refuses to pay for his child’s wedding it is wrong. But it must also be noted that unfortunate situation usually is a result of when a mother actively worked to disenfranchise the children from their father. “
That may very well be so and any woman who knowingly distances the children from their (innocent of wrongdoing)father, in order to get back at him, is doing the wrong thing, unless he was violent and abusive to them or to her. However, it may also be so that the father has not been present in his kids’ lives by his own choice, due to mental illness, or because he has a new family with a second marriage. No one really knows the true story. I was only commenting on the fact that a divorced parent may have no additional resources to pay for a simcha.