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Hey!I think your subtitle came from the moderators. About the ups and downs… I saw a cute quote on friday,”unless life also gives you sugar and water, your lemonade will taste terrible.” Its so true because without those good times and steps up, life seems too hard to manage. So im happy there are some ups!

Some ideas I had about your insecurities. ..

1. Know that its invisible to other people. They probably dont notice because theyre too busy dealing with their own insecurities.

2. Avoid people you feel particularly insecure around. Those might be the people who are extremely critical of you or they, in general, are very negative about everything.

3. Dont compare yourself to other people!! This is a biggie because we all do it!! Don’t set your standards based on someone else’s.

4. If you know that youre particularly good at something, work to excel at that.

5. Try to think whats at the root of your insecurities. Are you scared of making a fool of yourself? Scared of disappointing someone like your parents?

Business1 comes from my first choice of what I want to do which is to get a business degree! Actually, at this point its kind of fluctuating between that and a few other options.

Now I have a question for you! How on earth do you have so much emunah?!?! I know I asked that already and im asking it again, maybe cuz im so dumbfounded. Ive been through plenty of my own challenges and for some reason this year it really came to a head.

Actually, last week before I went on the scale I made a deal with Hashem that if I lost weight ill daven for three days. I didnt daven for about a month. (Its taking forever to lose cuz I dont really have to lose. I have my own insecurities about that :)) so turns out that I lost 1 lb and I kept to my side of the deal and davened for three days. But it was hard. I didnt feel anything and now I dont know if ill continue.

Looking foward to hearing from you…