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Keep Climbing- I was reading this thread with interest and I hope that my insights can give you some Chizzuk.
I am average height but I am friends with a girl who is 4’9( currently married), have a sister in law who is 5’1, and best friends with a girl is 5’2( married as well)
What they all have in common is that their height does not define them in any shape or form…usually they just wear heels but they feel good wearing flats as well…
The way they look at it is: you have dark hair, I have light, you are tall, I am short…
I think it is much more difficult for men to be that short…but
let me tell you something I have neighbors- husband is 5’3, wife is 5’2….
They are the most charismatic charming couple I know! The husband is a rebi at a local kiruv organization and he leads an oneg shabbos every week! I can assure you that the guests are at least 5’8 and taller! They both have lots of happiness and personality and do not walk around feeling self conscious.
My point is that height does not and need not define your self worth! in fact people find it adorable when short people shine with their personalities. This doesn’t mean you have to be a loud person, or the life of the party, but it means that you don’t need to worry what others may think of your height!
Confidence is contagious and once you gain some, people will overlook the height think in matter of seconds!
Remember that you are awesome but the mere virtue that there is not a soul on the planet that is like you! you are unique in every way…your very DNA is nonidentical to anyone on this planet! You get to be what you want and more importantly remember that you don’t need everyone around you to like you for you to be happy. Alot of people make the mistake that they don’t feel good about themselves unless the whole class, office, or community loves them!
You can choose your own friends and develop close relationship with them…the rest of the people are irrelevant!