Sac and Dunno, here is a serious question for both of you. What if Hashem’s plan for you is to marry someone shorter than you. Would you be more comfortable “not” marrying at all or marrying someone shorter? I am serious here, because you are still young and maybe do not understand the seriousness or the difference of finding your bashert or finding Prince Charming. At some point you have to realize that what YOU are looking for might not be who Hashem has in MIND for you. Hashem has a very interesting sense of humor. Just look around and see who he puts together. Although it might seem like it is OUR choice really he has already chosen our zivig for us way before we even gave it a thought.
All I am trying to relay to you is to really consider how much importance you are giving to any one issue. WHY does it make you uncomfortable? Why are YOU hung up on that? WHY should it be such a big deal to you? What is it about this issue that makes it a deal breaker for you? This is really something that you should discuss with someone you truly trust and admire.
I truly believe that in my generation the bulk of tall men married short women (such as my case) and we produced tall daughters and short sons. The bulk of young men in this generation is of average height not tall yet the bulk of young women are above average height, not short. There is no way to control the distribution of the much sought after tall boys. However, if there is a shortage of young men in general and a shortage of tall young men to boot, aren’t you cutting yourselves out of the running if you hold out only for tall men? Aren’t you really limiting yourselves and possibly denying yourselves the opportunity of meeting your true zivig?
I am not trying to annoy you in any way. I am simply trying to impart to you something that you might realize a few years down the line, and something that I don’t want you to HAVE TO realize a few years from now. I would like you both to find your basherts tomorrow and not have to wait one extra minute. So maybe those who are my age and have had more life experience than either of you might know things and see things that you have yet to learn and understand. WE don’t want you to have to learn those lessons. We want you to be happy and fulfilled and we don’t want you to suffer the nisyonos and challenges that others who have been stuck with deal breakers have suffered. Since I don’t know either one of you, I can’t advise you and certainly would never tell you what to do. I am just asking the both of you to discuss this with someone you truly admire and trust to fully understand if you can get over this uncomfortable feeling and see where it is coming from.