Aries2756:I have a question on your post. The first few thoughts that jumped into my head while reading your post was:
1) does this mean that a girl/boy cant express what s/he is more attracted to?
2) is one supposed to go out with every girl/boy redt to him/her cuz it may be their bashert?
3) isnt the fact that girls/boys have these (sometimes unreasonable) “requirements” part of the plan Hashem has? Sometimes its not bashert for someone to get married until later adn these “requirements” are Hashems way of making sure that this person marries his/her bashert at the bashert time, no?