In general I troll around in the background when it comes to CR but for this question I specifically registered to post a reply.
As a parent of a son in yeshiva in EY and a daughter going back for shana bet my 2 cents is as follows – I have complete emuna that as long as my children are doing what they are supposed to be doing where they are supposed to be doing it, whatever happens is what is supposed to happen – no matter where they are. This is especially evident in the past weeks and today as we see certain events unfolding that seem to make no sense to us.
I am often reminded of the family that left Efrat during the Intifada to go to Yerushalayim for a break from the violence and were victims of the Sbarros suicide bomber – lo aleinu. Our job is to do HaShem’s ratzon to the best of our ability and leave the rest up to HKB”H.
HaShem has His plans and it is up to us to do the right thing with complete confidence and menuchas hanefesh that HaShem is in control.
If it is really causing a machlokes in the family, perhaps you should ask your Rav – assuming, of course, that everybody involved is willing to live w/the answer. The guidance of daas Torah is reassuring and the key to many shalom bayis issues.
Wishing you hatzlocha.