I brought up kibudav because amaaretz used it as a reason to stay, of course if parents are paying for it there’s no practical choice.
amaaretz
I happen to be learning in an American Yeshiva now, but if the same situation I (hope) would listen to them. And even if for some reason there was no “Chiyuv”, it would still be the right thing to do.
the right thing to do would be to listen to the shulchan aruch
lior
I was only responding to the narrow abstract point about when Kibud IS applicable whether it can be put aside for Limud Torah purposes.
i’m not sure if you’re calling me narrow minded or not, but if you are- that’s nuts and we know what has the same gmatriah as nuts
Now for the chiluk between girls and boys, where boys have a chiyuv as opposed to girls. I do hear the difference but it could be it doesnt make a difference. Expecially if girls have kiyumis. And even if there isn’t kiyumis, I think the girl herself feels she will end up doing more mitzvos and have more yiras shamayim if she goes. I’m not sure that it’s so simple to say this isnt a mitzva. Agian, practically the only bearing of what im saying would be to cancel out the pro of staying for the sake of kibud av and its shmirah.