Sitting in kollel DOES NOT MAKE ONE ELITE!!
Yes it does.
In the eyes of Sem trained girls, only multiple years in Kollel will do for a Chasan. Otherwise they think of THEMSELVES as failures to Yiddishkeit (because that is what they were tought in Sem, and possibly high school as well), because they are not supporting (emotionally and financially, either through their’s or daddy’s money) a Kollel Bochur.
In the minds (that which they are) of these girls, guys who are working are second best, if not outright failures. Sitting in Kollel is a neccessary condition to be elite.