wow. keepitcoming. you are saying that any guy whos working can’t be learning part time???
let me tell you a story about a family member of mine: He is 23 and not yet in shidduchim. He plans on finishing his college degree first so he can support his family. but while finishing his college degree he: wakes up vaskin, learns first seder and goes to a shiur, finishing with mincha somehwere around 3 I think. He then goes to college for a few hours, and then returns to the beis midrash for 2 hours of night seder. that is about 9 hours a day of learning. You are telling me that he is a second class citizen because he is planning on supporting his family at the loss of what, 2 hours, from your average kollel guy?
it is very possible for a guy to have learning Torah be his main priority, but also supporting his family. And they realize that it does take a few years to do the training. so waiting until you have no money for food to start the schooling, leaving your family without any income for 3 years, is not that great an idea.
Most of these working guys we’re discussing haven’t just written off learning, they have at least one seder/shiur every day.
regarding girls who don’t want kollel guys being on a lower level:
I’m going to give more information here about myself than I usually do, because I am such a strong believer in this:
I plan on going into Chinuch, because that is a dream of mine. It doesnt pay well to put it mildly. my parents are not able to support me/my family. If I marry a kollel guy, within a few years he’s going to need to start working because I will not be making enough money changing Jewish childrens’ lives to support us. I recognize that its not fair for me to take a guy who could be the next rosh yeshiva and make him work. You’re still saying that I’m on a lower level for recognizing that?
I’m not saying no to a kollel guy because I’m selfish and want to live in a big house. I will be perfectly fine living in an apartment, but I need the money to buy that apartment, and for that he needs to work.