would it help if i also mention that I’m not looking for a full time learner, but rather someone who is a solid frum guy (ppl tend to think that by working i mean modern- which is sooo off) with middos tovos, someone caring, sensitive toward others, responsible…all that good stuff. when someone asked me what makes me different from all the girls out there, my answer (with confidence to show) was that i’m looking for an earner/learner. they were kinda taken aback, but i was like “does that make me any less frum?????????” i want to be happy in my marriage. i can’t support alone, and my parents can’t afford to support me- even if they could, i wasn’t brought up with such a gross attitude as to expect support from them. i know that if they’d have the means, they would love to support. of course i’ll help support. but i can’t do it alone and be expected to remain so cool calm and collected as i take care of a household, have children…and have to be the supporter myself. it’d stress me out and i wouldn’t have a happy calm household. I think it’s great if a guy realizes that he should help with the support (and did i mention that i also want someone who is machshiv Torah and will set aside time to learn every day? Did i mention that I’m actually frum and want a Torah home, and that I want to bring up children who will grow up having a love for Torah?) I’m looking for you learning guys too. I’ve found a few of you, barely a handful, but i know ur out there so i’m gonna keep looking…
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