Ubiquitin, the “dating divide” is a separate issue from the famous (or infamous) Crisis.
The d d is a direct result of shadchanim in certain circles (where the d d is disastrous) redting shidduchim to the boy first. (I’m not the only one who raised this issue here in the past.)
I would have guessed that the Mods have been using their famous (or infamous) invisible ink to post my posts.
Huh?
But actually, the problem, as was explained to me by a very well-known and famous shadchanit (shadchante, if you prefer) is as follows:
This system of redting first to boys was implemented to protect girls from the pain of rejection when a boy says ‘no’. This way the girl gets a boy’s name when she already has a positive answer from him. (There is no fear of causing boys or their parents any discomfort if and when they get a ‘no’.)
This shadchanit would be very interested in changing things and redting to both sides at the same time, but, apparently for the reason she mentioned, she can’t persuade anyone to go along with her.