Reply To: Tears of Beis HaMikdash

Thanks for the replies!

I don’t personally know any rabbis. There is one toddler involved. I guess “halacha” isn’t the right word, per se. More like spirituality. It’s spiritually bad. I’m looking for more insight into that, and ways for me not to keep thinking that I’ve made a horrible mistake letting it go, if it comes to that.

It might not be the right forum but I’m trying different outlets; maybe someone will say something that will make a difference. You never know.

He went to a Dayan a few weeks ago and he was told he can’t get a divorce without trying therapy so he’s reluctantly agreed but only going so he can get it out of the way and get a divorce. I doubt he’ll participate, but it’s worth a shot. We’re going next week.

I guess the main problem is that, with him, you never know if he’s doing something because he wants to or if he’s just going along with it because he thinks he has no choice or “just because.” And he won’t communicate that either, so I’m nervous therapy will seem like it’s working but in reality, he’s just faking it and then things will get bad again after a while of him “faking it” and exploding. If asked, sometimes he’ll say he’s faking it and was lying about being happy, and sometimes he’ll say he really wants to try, is happy, and was lying about faking it. But is that uncertainty enough to not try and work on it? That’s the only thing holding me back from trying fully. The possibility that even if things seem like they’ve worked out, it could just be an illusion.