I think Lior’s comment is probably correct but was applicable to you in the past. You’re up to the next step or two from there.
Years ago I knew someone who was married for a very short time and nobody could imagine why they got divorced. He said that he went to many different teachers, rabbis and counselors and they all agreed that he should divorce. I remember that I couldn’t possibly imagine a reason this early in the game that would warrant such drastic measures. Years later he told me that she had stopped keeping any mitzvos and told him she had no intention of changing her mind. She said that if he really loved her he would accept her for who she is.
Yentingyenta – you are so right in your final statement. I would hope everyone always gives it their all before giving up but as I learned from my friend, it is not always reparable.