Syag: thank you.
Yenting: I will not say you took the wrong approach since you don’t want to post the details of your situation, something I fully respect, and there are those very rare situations where it may be obvious that it is both untenable and irreparable.
Nevertheless, in the majority by far of situations a marriage on the brink is repairable with the efforts by both parties. Sometimes it may take a whole lot of effort but it is doable. And it is very worth doing. Especially when there’s children. I’d even go so far as to say that by far most divorces were avoidable. We live, sadly, in a disposable society. Whether paperware, electronics, cars and in recent decades marriages are easily disposed of for the latest model and fads rather than being repaired as had always been the previous norm.