Health, my (soon to be) ex believed that if I changed to be the way he wanted (including lowering my religious standards) then our marriage could be fixed, not if HE stopped his behaviors. According to the therapist we tried, he couldn’t see he was doing anything wrong so there is nothing to fix. So yes, my marriage was “untenable and irreparable”.
But I still don’t like what she wrote saying the first time because it sounded like something that my ex would say.