Well, lookingforsem, it may be surprising to you, but your opinion is not the only one in the world. (GASP)
And your opinion is not always right. (FAINTS)
And you really shouldn’t be judging the entire BY system by your bad experience. There are far more girls going through BY and emerging as happy, succesful, and confident people than there are being kicked out or leaving on their own, disgruntled. You can’t argue against that point because you are not in the BY system right now- I am, and am therefore far more qualified to evaluate it.
No, it is not perfect. So what? Nothing other than Hashem and His cheshbonos is perfect!
I’m sorry if you had a bad experience, but it’s really unfair to write off the whole BY system cuz you couldn’t handle it.