By the way, saying Tehillim is a beautiful way to connect further with Hashem. Doing chessed by visiting a shut in, or cooking for someone who has just had a baby, taking someone shopping with you because she can no longer drive, being a member of the Bikur Cholim that visit people in hospitals, are all things that we women can do, and on our own timetable, to boot.
Except for disagreeing with the words, “by the way”, this answer is a very beautiful and proper answer. The rest of your reply, while certainly correct, I found to be somewhat insulting. What in the world does “my” question have to do with women in the world who don’t keep halacha and want to put on tefillin?
Trust 789: What I heard (IIRC) B’shem the Rav is that he suggested that the women put on Tefillin without Parshios for a month, and then revisit the decision whether to actually wear tefillin.
As others have stated, it was with tzitis. Regardless, you didn’t answer my question. Did you even read it?
Why not follow the blueprint set out by hashem, instead of looking for alternate ways to connect to him?
This is not an answer. Even if a woman does everything according to halacha, there are times in her life, when she could feel disconnected to Hashem and feel like she is lacking in kedusha. Sometimes she is a person who just craves more spirituality, sometimes it’s because she is going through a hard time in her life etc. She can try to get connected to Hashem through learning mussar sforim, listening to shiurim, become more stringent in tznius, or some of what Oomis suggested. And some women might think that perhaps if she will put on tefillin (which is a holy object), may help her get that connection (in the privacy of her home).
There is such a defensive attitude when a woman wants to do more. As though she has no right. She can be told to just focus on making a better kugal or cholent and she has fulfilled her tafkid, and not be busy with narishkeit like actually trying to be a more holy woman. She can be holy while pampering her baby too. That’s wonderful if she feels that way, but it doesn’t always work, (especially if she doesn’t have a baby at that time to pamper.)
And by the way, I have never put on tefillin, and I likely never will. But I am always seeking ways to bring more ruchnius into my life and into my home. And there were times that I gave tefillin a fleeting thought, even though I wouldn’t actualy do it. But I found the answers to my question here quite insulting.
Is this a way to answer such a question? By implying that any desire for more holiness is “only to feel more like a man”? I have found this attitude in real life too, and not having anything to do with putting on tefillin, but in learning, davening mincha or maariv, washing mayim achronim etc. And even if it’s necessary to bring up the issue of not having less than holy motives, there is a way to do it. And I think this is not the way.