As others have stated, it was with tzitis. Regardless, you didn’t answer my question. Did you even read it?
Oomis and I obviously misread your question. With your new post and explanation, I’ll try again.
If the question is “How can I become closer to Hashem”, it would probably work best (as has been posted here quoting from those bigger than us) to get closer to Hashem by working to have serious Tefilah and recognizing that Hashem has His hashgacha in everything. Recognize once a day outside of Tefilah and thank Hashem for what He does (that may be from Rabbi Miller, but I don’t remember off-hand).
Nothing to do with tefilin (for either a guy or girl). I do apologize for misunderstanding your question.