Reply To: How do you tell a good friend you no longer want to eat at their home?

Kapusta. I wish that worked. The way that these people think is if you invite them one week, they want to host us the next week.(tit for tat), and everyone must bring something( us to them and them to us). I dont even really like letting them bring food into our house. I want to speak about it with the rabbi but I dont know how to do so without him figuring out who it is or me plainly telling him.

These people are Orthodox and the man has (conservative) smicha. He studies all day and knows halacha. He DOES NOT like or (seem to) follow any chumra and if it not in the Mishna Bruera, it seems like it is not halacha to him. When I mentioned to him before about insulating food on Shabbos he acknowledged that it should not be done and then said it does pertain to the “unblech”. He also says no one can drive to his house on Shabbos and then lets his wife invite people who do so. I dont know what to do.

Is it possible to just avoid it? You know “I’m tired this week…-although sometimes this does not work”